WORK SMARTER NOT HARDER: Don’t Put Off Divorce “for the Sake of the Kids.” Here’s WHY.

Apparently, you really should NOT stay together, “for the sake of the kids.”

Psychotherapist Amy Morin says parents who are considering divorce should not delay it, for the sake of their kids.

She says she sees it often—parents who put off divorce until their kids are adults because they want to protect them from feeling sad, or want to avoid hectic schedules of bouncing between two homes.

But Morin says that, staying together, for whatever reason, when you don’t really want to, can cause lasting emotional damage to the kids; as kids can pick up on tension between their unhappy married parents even if the parents don’t fight or talk about their problems.

She adds that parents tend to create their own, separate rules for their kids, in this kind of relationship, even though they’re under the same roof, which can cause a lot of stress.  Morin says it can skew their kids’ ideas of what a relationship is, and not for the better.

She recommends, if you’re considering divorce, go to a marriage counselor to help you work through the decision, and sort out the details if you decide to part ways.   There’s more help, here:  (Yahoo)

• A psychotherapist says parents who stay together just for the sake of their kids and hold off on divorcing until they grow up aren’t really doing their kids any favors
• She says parents who are unhappily married exude tension at home that kids pick up on—even if they don’t fight or talk about their problems, and that this can cause emotional damage and stress
• She recommends that parents considering a divorce go to a marriage counselor to help them work through the decision, and sort out the details if you decide to part ways