“…Get to know each other, first.” That’s how my mom put it.
You’ve probably heard someone advise that you should not discuss religion, money, or politics with new aquaintances, or in social situations – like at work, or at a wedding.
It may be really fun to debate with people you know… trusted friends or family… the ones you are truly “familiar” with.
But, according to Brett & Kate McKay, who write for The Art of Manliness: it’s best to stay “kind and curious.” They write: “when it comes to avoiding the topics of politics, religion, and money with folks you’ve just met — there’s a reason this piece of advice is so timeworn.” The McKays point out that: “The introduction of these ‘controversial’ subjects can lead to a conversation getting overly heated, create misunderstandings, cause people to take offense, and end a relationship before it’s even begun.”
With familiar folks, “you’ve already built a relationship of trust and respect” – which permits each one to disagree in a civil way. There’s still a bond or a trust. You each know you’re more complex than just a one-issue-person.
But new acquaintances don’t know anything about you; and argument is a bad lead. It just makes you look nuts.
For The Art of Manliness, the McKays offer these guidelines:
“Any topic of conversation can be on the table as long as you handle it in a tactful way. All you really have to remember is this: stay kind and curious.”
My mom would thank you, Kate and Brett. ~ Mo